Today, he's married. First day married. Exchanging vows and signing of marriage certs. Its the first tot in every sister: I lost my brother! Of course there goes the saying too that,# You didn't lose a brother you gained a sister in law.#
I read this online. "Change is hard for everyone. He will be the same brother you love today and the same brother you love tomorrow. It will take a little bit of adjustment thats all".Or, "He's allowed to have his own life, as are you. Sure relationship will change, that's life, but he's still your brother."
N when I came to the part which says, "This is the progression of life. I'm certain he'd love to hear how special he is to you, and how much you miss having him around. You'll leave home too, one day." I CRIED. Yes, he is special to me. Mayb I grew up without a father, he was like a father firgure and a close fren to me.
I remember how I hated to play the piano for him, coz it made me feel tat i'm never good enough. I'd always wanted to let him see my success in something, no matter what that means. So much so that we dun really share when it comes to BG relationship. Until recently, I cried in front of him, when I knew my r'ship was over. He protected me like a big brother. Spend time with me, let me have my space, gave me solutions on how to get over it. Gave me options on how to be a better person. Wanting me to grow up so that I can be independent, knowing that he cant spend so much time with me anymore - Especially now that he's gonna build his own family!
I'm really not sad becos he's "taken over"... but moreover, I will miss him a lot!
Still I wanna share a toast to my brother:
"Daniel,may you and your wife remain lovers, for all of your life.Let your love endure beyond the last sunset, Cheers!"
Hello Grace.
ReplyDeleteCould totally understand how you feel. However, it was the other way around in my case. The day when I got married, both my brothers and parents cried! Of cos they were happy for me that I've finally found the man I'm gonna spent a lifetime with, they cried because I've grown up and leaving the nest, changing my name. I broke down when my parents wore the veil for me, cried when I walked down the ailse when the Pastor pronounced us 'husband and wife', that was the 1st time I hugged my mum so tightly, knowning that things would be different from then onwards. But deep in our hearts, we know that I will still be their little girl and they have gained another son :)
Perhaps before the BIG day comes, spend more time with your brother, do the things that you do together when he was still single. I did ALOT of things with my brothers and mum 2 months before I got married. And funny thing was, we really enjoyed each other's company even more. Not sure why. The night just before my wedding, I slept in the same bed with my parents, with my mum holding me to sleep. That moment was priceless!
Till today, I look back at my wedding gowns hung neatly in my cupboard and pictures, it still bring tears to my eyes. But its all good.
Ok-lah, I think I better stop writing. Sorry for the long'sermon' :)
Huey Yen.
Yen,
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing...I guess changes makes us realise the importance of something. My mom cried too when my sister got married. Its the changes that makes us wanna express our love!
Oh, gotta go wipe my tears now :')